Acceptance is such a powerful concept. If you think about it, if we accepted everyone and everything, we’d all be so calm and happy.
We could accept that politician, that annoying workmate, that rebellious teenager, that overbearing boss, and, above all, accept ourselves – warts and all!
Maybe you’re thinking that there’s no way you could accept that dreadful person next door who complains when your kids are having fun outside and just being noisy kids.
Then stop for a moment and consider the Native American concept of having to walk a mile in someone else’s moccasins to know where they’re coming from.
We can't, can we? So, for a peaceful life, we just have to accept that we've all got our individual quirks and dysfunctions.
But let’s get back to accepting ourselves
Many Aspies want to change themselves in order to fit in with neurotypicals. This is known as camouflaging, and it's been shown that women are better at it. But we all should really just be accepting ourselves, lauding our differences and celebrating our unique giftedness.
You will be empowered and feel happier and lighter when you accept that you're not only enough, but also have extra special skills and abilities. You'll be empowered to re-define your life. You’ll know you belong on this planet after all.
You might have heard me say that I’m on a mission to achieve a world where neurotypical people accept Aspies as they are, and don't try to cure them!
For that to work, we Aspies need to accept ourselves. We need to start the ball rolling.
I reckon the Aspies who'd get most out of my courses are looking to feel worthy, to experience a spiritual approach to their lives, to be accepted, and to break free from an unfulfilling life and a stigma that inhibits their creativity, freedom and potential.
A dear friend was telling me about troubles she’s having with people at work. We tossed it around together for a while, and then she came up with the idea that perhaps she should simply accept them, even when they don’t measure up in the job, or when they communicate gruffly.
Yes, acceptance can quite possibly be a key to a happy life because it
- helps relationships,
- paves the way for love,
- opens the mind to new possibilities,
- opens the door to gratitude,
- removes barriers to our success,
- and many many more.
It’s so wide-ranging that I have a whole week’s course on acceptance.
George Orwell said, “Happiness can exist only in acceptance”.
However, for the moment, let’s accept our own lives. Accept that we’re in the right place at the right time, that we’re good enough, that we’re given all our experiences to aid in our personal and spiritual growth, which then results in more happiness.
It’s easier said than done, but learning acceptance (AKA ‘isness’) is the way to a peaceful life. You can read more about 'isness' in my blog about Pooh Bear. Also, acceptance is one of the modules in the advanced courses that I teach.
In the meantime, elsewhere on this page, you'll find a few ‘meme’ cards that may be relevant and useful for you.
MORE POSTS...
-
Why the world needs neurodiverse peeps
We don't need curing! Re-orient the way you view yourself – and this will pave the way for you to find the diamond that is you.
-
Stop thinking UR on the wrong planet Aspie
We're likely to feel as though we are so different that we must be in the wrong place. But I aim for us – and the larger community – to learn to value our distinctions, and know we don't need fixing.
-
Sample your inner power with this simple exercise
Your inner power is very different from the power that some peeps wish to impose on others. Do this exercise in just a few minutes.
-
Freedom is one of my drivers. I strongly believe it's everyone's right to be free to express themselves as they wish.
-
Acceptance is the most pivotal action you can take
Let's achieve a world where neurotypical people accept Aspies as they are, and don't try to cure them. But first, Aspies need to accept themselves.
-
As the late Gerald Jampolsky said way back in the 70s and 80s, “Love is letting go of fear.” He was quoting from ‘A Course in Miracles’, and he wrote a book of the same name.
-
No magic, no spooky business
My hope for you is to discover the beauty and power of meditation – and that it's so much more than a wellness tool. -
-
A spiritual understanding of some ‘hairy’ questions that might be bothering you—includes same sex marriage, abortion, free will...
-
Why do I still use the name Asperger? I use Asperger’s, and I'm in good company, as you'll see by Dr Tony Attwood's words. He is recognised as a world authority on neurodiversity
-
The five 'baddies' in our lives
Could 'not-enoughness' be at the bottom of what many religions accept as obstacles? -
-
Is chanting weird, scary stuff?
In case you are freaked out at the thought of a chant, or the thought of using a chant from a different religion or path, let me put you at ease.
